EP 16: Human Design and Your Stress Experience

Our mission is to give you tools and strategies that will help you move from being stressed to feeling your best.

In this episode, we talk about two Chinese medicine practices, Human Design and Facial Reading, and the clues both can give to help understand and manage stress experiences.

Co -hosts Deb Timmerman and Barb Fletcher, are certified HeartMath® Trainers, and certified stress educators, who are skilled at helping people discover the power of living form the heart.  Want more information on HeartMath®, heart-powered living. or the Masterclass Series mentioned in the podcasts? click here. 

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SPEAKERS

Barb Fletcher, Deb Timmerman

Deb Timmerman  00:00

You're listening to the less stress in life podcast. Your hosts, Deb Timmerman and Barb Fletcher are on a mission to help individuals and organizations manage stress and change. Together, they bring you real conversations, inspirational stories, and strategies to help move you from being stressed to feeling your best.

Barb Fletcher  00:21

I'm Barb Fletcher, and welcome to our series of 52 practical tools for less stress in life. And this is episode 16.

Deb Timmerman  00:32

Hi, I'm Deb Timmerman. Our goal is to give you tools and strategies that help you move from being stressed to feeling your best, and today we're going to talk about human design.

Barb Fletcher  00:44

So, Deb, and I have spent some time over the last almost a year embarking upon a new of a new path to add to our repertoire of what we bring to help people with stress. And so, we've actually received a certification, and it's called facial intelligence practitioners. We're excited to include this as part of what we do. Can you share a little more about what that was, Deb?

Deb Timmerman  01:16

Yeah, it was super exciting. It was really about the science of reading facial features, markings, expressions, wrinkles, to discern what our personality traits are, and what our life experience has been. So, all the ways we show up our thought patterns or emotional patterns, how we communicate, and how we respond to stress in our internal and external environments.

Barb Fletcher  01:42

It really has been powerful for me to look at people's features differently and be able to use that in the conversations that I have. So, you and I have done many certifications, all which add to where we are, but why would we do this one?

Deb Timmerman  02:07

I was first intrigued by this, because I thought it helped me understand myself better. And those around me. So we all have family relationships and different personalities, and when I first took the workshop, and I learned about those different elements or elemental design, how we're made, it helped me to understand myself better and those relationships around me. And I thought, wow, if this gives me a lot of insight on myself, What could that be like for my clients, if they could understand that they're not just the sum total of who they are in their life experiences, but they were designed to be a certain way. And I thought there was freedom in that freedom and knowing that. At least it was for me, when I understood that I was designed to be a certain way, it helped me understand why I do the things I do, and why the stressors impact me the way they impact me.

Barb Fletcher  03:15

And I think what's really powerful, but that is just understanding, because you and I both know that, that once we understand what's happening to us, then we can we're offered more choice than we might be otherwise. And so, I like you I wanted to understand how it worked for me. And before even considering about how I could help others. But it really was a game changer for me because there were things that I did and ways that I behaved that I knew weren't my best self but didn't really understand why and it wasn't as simple as you and I know, as saying don't do it or trying to talk yourself out of it.

Deb Timmerman  04:12

That's so true. I think the other takeaway for me was, we see people running to the cosmetic industry to erase the lines on their faces. And learning that there's a story behind those lines or a reasoning behind those lines was just eye opening. So, for those who are listening to the podcast, you're not going to be able to see this but I have a line on my forehead just above my nose. That's very deep and very etched and that line of the part of the face is called the Father's blessing. I did not have a strong father figure in my life. And I put creams and all kinds of stuff on there to get it to go away. And it really wasn't about that surface work, but more about that deep inner work that allowed me to understand why that line is there. And it is what it is. I don't fret about it anymore.

Barb Fletcher  05:14

No, I think we look in the mirror differently and see features that we have perhaps didn't enjoy in the past. For me it was these, and they're considered moneybags. Now I see them with a different level of appreciation, but I have to tell them that just a short, funny story. So about so we've talked here about my mom passing away at the end of December, or end of January. And so, she called me probably mid-November, late November, and said, I need you to go to the drugstore, and get me some wrinkle cream. And I want you to get me the best stuff there is. And, and, you know, it was like, don't spare any expense. She's in the hospital at the time. And I said, Okay, so if I go to buy the wrinkle cream, I actually take it to one of the hospital, and one of them says you're going to see big changes in two weeks. And when we one says you're going to see changes in three. And so I suggested to her that she should have started the other one sooner, because now this was all going to shift everything. But what, what that really is, and so now I'm using up the rest of the wrinkle cream, because she's passed in the end every. And I actually picked it up this morning, and saw this this line and said wrinkle cream. And you know what that says to me that we really, we have an opportunity here to understand what those needs, we all want to be healthy. But it really isn't about changing what's on the outside.

Deb Timmerman  07:02

And I guess for those who haven't had any experience with human design, the certification that we took comes from the Chinese medicine perspective. And it's 1000s of years old, and how it developed was the medicine practitioners of the time were not able to touch women. So they started observing all the different changes in their features in their face. And each feature on our face, and every line and wrinkle and area of our face relates to some organ or organ system that we have in our body. So it was how they actually did diagnosis. And it what it's maybe what 3000 years old, 4000 years old, it's been around forever. And I always love learning about health from another cultures perspective, I think it's so interesting. You know, we're sort of in that something's wrong, we get a pill to fix it. And other cultures really take that internal point of view, and fixing what's on the inside, as it reflects on the outside. And that is very much the viewpoint of this Chinese medicine practice.

Barb Fletcher  08:14

What I learned was that my propensity and my understanding of being with other people, I take on their emotions, I take on their feelings. And so at the end of the day, I'm really tired. And I feel like I've been bounced around. One of my features is really wanting people to experience something positive to have a nice time. So yesterday, we had a gathering, it wasn't huge, probably 10 or 12 people. And we're laying in bed last night and my husband, who his perspective, and his face shows something very different. He said, Oh, wasn't that a great time? This was the best day? And I said, yeah, it was but I was exhausted. And it was because of how I interpret all of those people around me. Yeah, I,

Deb Timmerman  09:13

I would agree to that we had some of the same experiences yesterday. So as we look at this, from the Chinese medicine perspective, it's all about elements. So we're a blend of five elements. And when we're in balance all of our elements, we're very much in this state of ease. But when one of our elements gets pulled out of alignment, that happens, so having that awareness is super important, so that you can pull it back and rein it in. And I heard that same thing happened yesterday. My grandson, who is 14 was full of beans yesterday, but he's got huge energy, and I have a challenge with maintaining that energetic boundary, and I was tired. So you can imagine if you're around people all day long, and you're not understanding this relationship with others, how much that has to do with stress and construct you out and drain you. So super interesting stuff. And we loved it so much that we're going to offer an intro class coming up in May Barbie want to talk about that a little bit.

Barb Fletcher  10:29

So this will allow you to dip your toe in the water and know a little bit more about how facial intelligence what it offers, what insight it might offer to you. And that class we're going to be offering it there's no charge, you need to sign up ahead of time, we'll be posting the link following the podcast. And it will be an opportunity for you to understand yourself differently, particularly from a stress lens. What does that look like for you? What happens to you under stress and why is that the case? What's your makeup? What design did you come with?

Deb Timmerman  11:15

So, thank you so much for joining us today. Our call to action is if your interest is piqued and you want to know more, just look for the link for the masterclass below, and we'll see you next time. Less stress in life is possible. If you're new to this kind of thinking and would like to explore what's possible for you. We'd love to connect. You can reach us through our website at less stress in life.com. That's less stress in life.com